Thank you for your thoughtful response. I try to take advantage of opportunities to educate, but I think the person who made the "Be a man" post is likely not to be open to it. The group seems to have moved on, e.g. there are several posts now, pushing my original one down the line, so it seems to be a dead issue now. It hasn't stopped people from posting, although I can't know if there are other people who now feel inhibited or unsafe there. I'm hoping that the fact that I didn't take down my original post is statement enough that I'm going to continue to make it a welcoming place no matter what, but as you say, there's no easy answer.