Thank you for the kind and thoughtful words. I find myself wanting to be petty about what happened (e.g. the attorney accidentally referring to us as "husband and wife). I seem to be holding a grudge, which is something I don't want to do. I don't want to be the kind of person who does that. I know I need to be vigilant about that emotional response and tell myself that the attorney isn't representative of all those other people who tried to marginalize and humiliate me. It's hard work.